I have been taking part in some discussions on the internet in what is generally known as the ‘manosphere’.
This is a loose grouping of sites that include the men’s rights movement, pick-up artists and game, and complementarian marriage.
There is a subgrouping within this which contains the blogs and discussions of Christian men, for example Dalrock (http://dalrock.wordpress.com), Empathologicalism (http://empathological.wordpress.com/), Dark Brightness (http://pukeko.net.nz/blog/) and some women who support complementarian marriage like Sunshine Mary (http://sunshinemaryandthedragon.wordpress.com/) and the ladies at Traditional Christianity (https://traditionalchristianity.wordpress.com/)
There are some within this group who self-identify as Christian but whose language on the web leaves something to be desired. Much of the argument is over the topic of divorce in the US where no fault is declared, and the parties simply split up the increase in the value of their joint assets over the period that they have been married. Now around 2/3 of all divorces in the USA are initiated by the (ex-)wife and there appears to be, even in Church circles a view that men should jump though any and every hoop that their wife places in their way while I wife should expect to be treated to a feeling of being excited by her husband at all times, and if he doesn’t make her feel loved, then he is at fault and deserves any and everything she throws at him in the divorce.
Coupled with this is a view that divorced women, who usually get custody of the children are supported by the church while divorced men are shunned, irrespective of whether there is a biblical reason for the divorce or not.
In the past, I came close enough to the abyss that is divorce to look over the edge, and I am thankful that God gave both my wife and me the courage to work through our difficulties and to start resolving them. We will not finish resolving our issues until we are face to face with God. But one of the things we have found out is that once we have said something to the other we cannot take it back or have a “do over”.
I am concerned that some of the people who self identify as Christian are really not only seriously rude to each other but are expressing sentiments that I am not sure are the outworking of the Holy Spirit in their lives. We have a responsibility to teach the truth in love, not to use such a hectoring tone that we have the other person upset.
I have differences with the theology of several of the posters, and differences with the way they see the application of theology, but that does not entitle me to behave like an upset adolescent who has just learned a few new curses. So folks, if you are reading this, please remember that the way you behave can be taking the Lord’s name in vain, because, if you call yourself Christian, you bear His name.